Grief is Messy

One thing I’ve learned through this journey is that grief is messy! No matter the circumstances surrounding your grief or how put together your life is. It’s going to be messy.

Grief has it’s own timeline and rhythm that doesn’t go along with our neat little lives. If you’re anything like me, you had your life all planned out. At this point, you may have even recalculated and readjusted and have it all planned out again. But grief…..

You see, it doesn’t work that way. You have a plan, a timeline, things to do but grief smacks you in the face. You think you’re doing just fine and BAM! I can’t even count the number of times this has happened to me. I’m going along just fine and then out of nowhere the strangest thing will knock me off the horse.

I’m learning that there are no stages to grief. Okay, there may be “stages” that people can go through or experience but they don’t happen in any order or at any certain time. You may even experience the same stage over and over again. No matter what anyone ever tells you. Even if someone had the exact same scenario as you. It won’t be the same.

What do we do about this? We choose to live in it. We trust that God is in control because He is. No matter how much we want that control. It’s not ours. He is good and he’s trustworthy. We trust the wild unknown that we are facing and we do the best we can everyday. We help each other along the way too. That’s all we can do.